Monday, June 4, 2007

Inkling Time

Well, I'm still Bee, but at least I've fixed the Who Am I part of my sidebar. Smart Guy will have to fix my name when he gets back from camp, hopefully.

Well, I just saw Inkling three days in a row. On Saturday I went out to the park where her family was having an open house for G'ma & G'pa M&M's 60th wedding anniversary. The open house was from 4-6. The kids and I got there around 5:15 and stayed until 7:30 when the family left. We were outside most of that time.. playing with the kids talking. I finally got to have a conversation with Henry David that was longer than "Hey how are you, is Inkling home?". Like Farmwife, the day before the wedding last year was the first time I'd ever met him. That weekend was too busy to get to know him at all though. On Sunday, I sat next to her in her family's row at church. She picked the kids up from class after church. Last night her and I went out for the evening and had a much-needed girls night out. We started by eating at Red Lobster. Then we drove around town a little. We stopped out at a cemetary on the edge of town where we both have relatives buried. There is a beautiful pond with a waterfall and swans at the entrance. We got out and walked around the pond and almost were sprayed by the sprinkler system as it came on right in front of us. We eventually ended up at Custard Cup for some of the world's best frozen custard. I got my usual cold fudge sundae and Inkling got her usual waffle cone with chocolate on bottom and lemon on top. We sat in the van with the windows down and ate and talked some more. Then I drove her back to her grandparents house and drove back here to Mom and Dad's.

This morning she was here by 10:15. She played legos with the Sara Orange Gang while I watched from the couch. Then they all made their traditional brownies. Normally they use a special from scratch recipe that Inkling likes, but I knew we'd be stretched for time, so we went with a boxed m&m mix and added cream cheese icing. They were yummy. Around noon, Inkling went back to her grandparents to eat lunch and pick up Henry David. They met us out at a nearby state park around 1:45. We watched the Canadien geese swim around for a short while and then headed down to the river to look at rocks and throw them in the water. We went to two different beaches and spent over two hours looking at throwing rocks in the water. It rained several times during our outdoor adventure. We were all wet and muddy by the time we came back to mom and dad's house so that Mom could meet Henry David for the first time. Around 5:00 or so, we said our goodbyes again for who knows how long. Maybe six months, maybe less if I get my passport and get out there sooner than that.

So, here's my question... How is it that even after seeing her three days in a row and having much conversation with her that I still feel like I didn't hardly see her, that there are things left unsaid, hugs left unhugged, and tears not cried.
I miss her so much, and in a way it makes me miss her more now that I've seen her for awhile. Of course, it's worth missing her more to spend time with her. So, now we'll go back to almost daily phone conversations thanks to the love of our hubbies who provide us with awesome phone plans that enable us to grow and continue our friendship.

I love you, Inkling and enjoyed our time together this weekend!

9 comments:

Ang said...

yeah girls nights out are the best. I never knew I missed them until I had them. I know what you mean about your visit with inkling. I have those feelings with farm fairy, and we live a lot closer. But with our schedules would couldn't be together that much.

Lauren said...

it does seem that as we get older, our time with girlfriends, especially those who know some of our deepest secrets, is harder to come by.

i am so glad you were able to spend time together!

Inkling said...

Okay, make me cry, why don't ya?! I had so much fun, and was so glad that you were laid back enough to let us play out in the rain and the cold snaps today. Henry David wasn't sure you'd be keen on that, but I told him that you were just fine. It's always a huge joy and an even huger (is that a word?) privilege to love on your kids. Thank you for letting me do that, and for trusting me with them. They have changed my life, and made me richer in so many ways. I love you too, and will of course get back to chatting with you every day once our stateside adventures are through. And I wish we could have spent more time chatting with your mom, but I promise to make efforts to see her whenever we're back.....so long as she doesn't move to Antarctica. And tell her that I'm counting on some good girl time with you two next summer after the DONA conferance. love, Inkling

p.s. You forgot to mention getting to read that delightfully pinkalicious book to Bee. The author has an even quirkier imagination than me. I think I might be scarred for life. =)

Farm Wife said...

I am so glad you two had time alone together. There wasn't time for that when I came up...too many people, too much to do, too little time...oh well. Maybe in the fall.

I wish we could've stayed longer, I was dying to see you and the kids. I'm just glad to hear you didn't pull up just as we left. Then I would have been really bummed! :)

Farm Fairy & Bruno said...

oh girly there is NOTHING like chick time...there is NEVER enough time with your best friend. Glad you had a great time...

Kimberly said...

I'm going to be in that position in July, when I get three days with my best friend who I haven't seen in over a year.

I think in a few months I'll understand exactly what you're describing here. ~hugs~

Angie said...

i'm jealous as heck! i sure miss you girl! would love to spend some time with you and the whole fam. perhaps when you get to ohio and settled we can come up for a visit. love you!

Caslon said...

So glad you had some quality time with your best friend. I get to see mine in 3 weeks - it's been a year and a half since I saw her...

Dreaming again said...

What a great time! You deserved it.

I got an unexpected time with a good friend last night. Just when I needed it.

I'm so glad that God gave us girlfriends, whether they come in the form of sisters or chosen sisters ... they are such a blessing aren't they?